Soulful Sunday: Relationships

“We heal relational wounds in relationship.” – Dr. Yvette Erasmus

We want to show up strong and secure in our relationships. We want to be cool and stay calm. The problem is that we bring all of our old stuff, the fears, the worries, the scars, to our new experiences. NEWSFLASH: We can’t show up perfect (and neither can your partner) in relationship. There’s much to be healed. Dr. Brené Brown says in her book Rising Strong that we cannot work ourselves out on the other person. It is remarkable how much healing happens when we allow ourselves to be seen, to show our blemishes, our scars. It’s not the other person’s job to heal us. Rather, it’s our job to bare our hearts, as much as we are willing. It’s in the being heard and seen that we are healed and that we heal others. Our job is to learn how to hold space for partners to do the same. Deep space. Curious space. I am here. I see you. It is safe to feel. This is hard work. It is in this space that we bring ourselves back to connection, back to love, back to life.

These Soulful Sunday blogs go out weekly on Sundays to be used as a place to step back from the hustle and bustle and explore what your soul might be saying to you. Some folks use these as journal prompts and let loose amidst pages. Some folks bring them to the kitchen table and jam over coffee. Do you, boo.