“I’ll never know, and neither will you, of the life you don’t choose. We’ll only know that whatever that sister life was, it was important and beautiful and not ours. It was the ghost ship that didn’t carry us. There’s nothing to do but salute it from the shore.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
Hello, dear one. It can be tempting to see the sister life and to crave it. Do not get caught up in the life that you are not living. Do not waste these precious moments mourning for the life you did not choose. Do not get stuck at the shores because you’re not on that one ship. There are few true mistakes in life, because mostly, there are divine growth opportunities. Perhaps you are at a crossroads, stressing one path or the next, afraid of missing out on the sister life ghost ship. Leo Buscaglia says that, “there are many paths, we must choose the path with the most heart.” Align as much as you can with what you know to be true. Stay as much as you can with what feels right and congruent with your right next step. Listen to yourself. Tune into your body. And be gentle with your present self. Do not berate her for the road your past self walked given the tools and intel she had at the time. Salute the sister life– the partner, house, career that you did not choose– and come solidly back to this moment with these loved ones and this body. This is yours now.
To being here in this life,
JESS
These Soulful Sunday blogs go out weekly on Sundays to be used as a place to step back from the hustle and bustle and explore what your soul might be saying to you. Some folks use these as journal prompts and let loose amidst pages. Some folks bring them to the kitchen table and jam over coffee. Do you, boo.