“High lonesome can be a beautiful and powerful place if we can own our pain and share it instead of inflicting pain on others. And if we can find a way to feel hurt instead of spread hurt, we can change.” – Brené Brown
This feeling thing is can be rough. It requires deep investigation. I find that the aches and the tears come faster, more furiously, and so truly when we allow ourselves to feel. We’re not taught much about how to actually FEEL the feelings, rather than ID and tidy them. We’re taught to manage it, to cover it up with clothes and makeup, and distract with eating an extra brownie or 12. I’ve had to untangle my habits of letting verbal daggers fly when I’m feeling hurt. I’d unleash my hurt onto my family members, my friends or my partners whenever I felt shame or anger or injustice. I’d seek out someone I could pick a fight with. It takes courage to face the places in our hearts and bodies that hurt. It’s our work to learn the tools and strategies, and to decondition ourselves to the chronic holding in. When we do that, we are becoming the change we are craving.
To spreading release, not tension,
JESS
These Soulful Sunday blogs go out weekly on Sundays to be used as a place to step back from the hustle and bustle and explore what your soul might be saying to you. Some folks use these as journal prompts and let loose amidst pages. Some folks bring them to the kitchen table and jam over coffee. Do you, boo.
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