Every year, I make up a whole new story about how perfect the holidays will be.
My holidays actually look like this (hello, fantasy):
Using a term coined by Sarin and Manel Baucells in their book Engineering Happiness, they call it “the fundamental question” of wellbeing. Happiness equals reality minus expectations.
Inevitably, holidays mean my expectations ≠ reality.
How the hell do we manage expectations, ESPECIALLY during the holidays?
We remember that some of us are celebrating, some of us our grieving, and we show up, in whatever ways that means for us. And we let it be enough. We trust that “showing up” means different things to our people at different times.
I’ve been trying on radical authenticity and boundaries for the past few years. Not easy. Really helpful.
For today, just show up. Exactly as you are, meeting folks exactly where they are.
Big love to you and yours,