A pregnant client called me frustrated that her side project wasn’t developing fast enough. By the way, I reminded her, you’re really busy creating a human. And she hasn’t had a smooth sailing pregnancy. But she’s moving forward. More slowly than she’d like, but she’s doing it.
I’m from a long line of over functioners. We go fast, we go hard, we go intensely. When our fear is palpable, we keep going. This is such our deeply rooted culture too. So it’s no surprise many of the people I work with are the same.
Here’s the thing: just because you’re a good swimmer doesn’t mean you have to swim in the deep end all the time. There’s something wonderfully healing about choosing to play in the shallow end. You get to be gentle, and you get to go slow. You even get to stop. You get to float and you’re still in the pool.
In the moments of overwhelm, frustration and feeling stuck, you have to relearn what movement needs to look like right now. You move to the shallow end so that you don’t drown OR completely get out of the dang pool.
Last year in my year of upheaval and rebirth, it looked like stopping work at 5pm, eating dinner with roommates, and going to my room at 8:30pm so I could meditate and sleep.
I said this mantra on repeat: You can do more than you think. A reminder that whatever doubt and fear crept into my head, I could still do more than I feared. I’m not stuck, because there are options for movement.
My darling, my dear, you can do more than you think. You are doing more than you know ;-).
Allow yourself to move as gently as you need, and keep going.